PILLAR 1: MAXIMIZE LOVE, MANAGE STRESS

  • LOVE MAXIMIZE LOVE, MANAGE STRESS
      
    WHY?
    Infants thrive when their world seems loving, safe, and predictable. When you express love and respond to their needs, you teach them that they can count on you. This is the foundation for your relationship. Over time, showing love and responding helps them learn to manage their feelings and behavior. Infants are affected by your emotions, both good and bad. So, it is important to find strategies that help you cope with stress. Caring for yourself benefits your child.

Maximize Love, Manage Stress

Maximiza el amor, controla el estrés

  • Los bebés prosperan cuando su mundo parece ser amoroso, seguro y predecible. Cuando expresas amor y respondes a sus necesidades, les enseñas que pueden contar contigo. Esta es la base de su relación. Con el tiempo, mostrar amor y responder les ayuda a aprender a manejar sus sentimientos y comportamiento. Los bebés se ven afectados por sus emociones, tanto buenas como malas. Por lo tanto, es importante encontrar estrategias que lo ayuden a sobrellevar el estrés. Cuidarse a sí mismo beneficia a su hijo.

Maximiza el amor, controla el estrés

  • TIPS FOR INFANTS
    (NEWBORN - 12 MONTHS OLD) 

    HOLD THEM
    Hold, kiss, and cuddle your infant! Do not worry about spoiling them. There is no need to hold back on sharing love.

    RESPOND TO THEM
    Your infant depends on you to meet their needs. Watch and listen for clues about how they feel and what they need. For example, a cry or whimper may mean that they are hungry or hot. Over time, you will learn to read your infant’s signals. Respond to what you notice. This helps them learn that you care. It also teaches them about cause and effect.


    COMFORT THEM
    When upset, infants have a hard time calming down on their own. They depend on you to help manage their emotions, so comfort them when they get fussy or cry. Bit by bit, they will learn ways to help soothe themselves (like sucking their thumb). Some babies cry more than others. If your baby cries a lot, raise the issue with your doctor.


    PLAY WITH THEM
    Your baby loves to look at your face. Hold them close, smile, make silly faces, and talk in a playful voice. Around 6 or 8 weeks, they will start to smile back. This means they are happy and learning the basics of communication. Have little “conversations” where you respond to each others’ sounds and facial expressions. Take breaks if your baby seems tired or overwhelmed. They might show this by looking away from you.


    MANAGE HOUSEHOLD STRESS
    Stress is normal, but too much stress is bad for a baby’s brain. Things that cause stress for an infant are loud noises, adults who seem upset or angry, or when adults do not respond to their needs. It is important to have strategies for coping when your life gets stressful. Talk to friends, family, or your doctor about ways to deal with stress.

  • TIPS FOR TODDLERS
    (12-36 MONTHS OLD)

    SNUGGLE UP
    Regularly hug and cuddle your toddler to help them feel safe and loved. And, remember that boys need just as much love as girls do.

    RESPOND TO THEM

    Watch and respond to your toddler’s words, feelings, and behaviors when they are upset as well as when they are happy.

    ENCOURAGE THEM
    Toddlers get a lot of satisfaction and confidence as they master new tasks. Help your child try new things. Follow their lead when they seem interested in something. Be supportive and encouraging as they take chances. Reassure them as they try to figure things out.

    INVOLVE THEM
    Find simple ways to involve your toddler in chores and other activities around the house. For example, they could help you stir while you are cooking. This makes them feel helpful and provides opportunities for learning.

    TALK ABOUT FEELINGS
    Teach your toddler to name their feelings. This will help them understand and express emotions. Let them know that all feelings are OK, and that you are there for them when they are happy or upset.

    OFFER CHOICES 
    Offer choices like what to wear or eat, but give a limited number of options. For example, “It’s time for a snack. Do you want an apple or grapes?” 

    SET BASIC LIMITS 
    Focus on safety-related rules like not hitting people. Put "No" in front of the thing you don't want your child to do, then distract them with another activity. Use the same rules consistently so your child learns them. Do your best to stay calm.

    HAVE A ROUTINE
    Have consistent times and ways of doing activities like feeding, bathing, reading, and bedtime. Your child will have an easier time with activity transitions when they know what to expect. Another part of a routine is having rules that you use consistently.

    MANAGE HOUSEHOLD STRESS 
    Stress is normal, but too much stress is bad for a brain that is still developing. Adults’ stress can trickle down to children, so it is important to have strategies for coping when your life gets stressful. Talk to friends, family, or your doctor about ways to deal with stress.